For the last 22 years of my life I always questioned why I was so different from my family and cousins. My childhood days were difficult because I endlessly kept searching for love and acceptance. I felt lonely at school so I would try to make friends who would love me for the way I am, but still had trouble being loved. What hurt the most was when my cousins or friends would question me "is that your mom?” and I would wonder why they asked. I didn’t have a clue. Deep inside I felt hurt and tried to ease off the pain. I kept hearing stories that I was adopted but I refused to listen because I didn’t want to believe it. I suffered trying to find answers but no one would tell me the truth so I had to find out myself. I had the desire to search for my birthparents.
On my 18th birthday, my adoptive parents introduced me to a beautiful young lady named Irene. Instantly, I paused trying to remember a moment where I had seen a girl like her back in the Philippines. We stared at each other nonstop and I kept wondering why. I already figured she had a family in the Philippines that seemed to look like me so I kept wondering. We kept in touch here and there. Suddenly, I asked personal questions. She admitted that I was her sister. I was very happy that I finally found out the truth. Saddest thing is my biological father passed away in 2009.
My family finally revealed the truth that I have real family back in the Philippines. I was very accepting of the fact that I am adopted. I went back to my homeland to meet my real mom, sisters and brothers. Also, I went to visit my real dad’s grave just to show consideration. They were glad to meet me after so many years. I saw tears and smiles in their faces.
If anyone is struggling with being adopted just hang in there. Things are never easy. Overcome your challenges. Always be grateful. Don’t ever blame yourself or your adoptive parents. Never show anger. Be compassionate. Birthparents or adoptive parents should be treated equally. Everyone should be treated as a family.
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